What’s Holding You Back?

Often you want to do something but for some reason you never seem to get started. Next time you think of something you want to do ask yourself these questions:

  • What would need to happen for me to do this?
    • If the answer seems too overwhelming, can you break it down into smaller tasks and spread them over time so it seems more manageable? Is there one small step you could take right now? Is there something else, smaller and more manageable, which would still give you what you want?
  • What makes me think that I can’t do this?
    • Can you find a way around the obstacle? Can you learn to do the things you can’t do? Or get someone else to do those parts?
    • Also ask yourself, is that real the reason or is that just an excuse not to look at the real reason for not doing it?
  • What would it do for me if it did happen?
    • Identify what it is that you REALLY want. Every time you get an answer ask again, what would THAT do for me? Keep asking until you work out what you REALLY want. Is there an easier way to get that?
  • Would there be any negative consequences if I did it?
    • Maybe these are what’s really holding you back. Can you find ways to minimise them or get around them?


Don’t just think about concrete results and issues. Think about the emotional effects and reasons too.

Making Decisions

Before making major decisions ask yourself these 4 questions.

  • What will happen if you do?
  • What will happen if you don’t?
  • what won’t happen if you do?
  • What won’t happen if you don’t?

For all of the questions above, make a list of answers. Try to make each list as long as possible; don’t just stop once you have one answer to each question. It may just be that the first answer isn’t the one that matters and number 6 IS.


Let me know how you get on with these ideas.


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