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What’s Holding You Back?

Often you want to do something but for some reason you never seem to get started. Next time you think of something you want to do ask yourself these questions: What would need to happen for me to do this? If the answer seems too overwhelming, can you break...

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Should I Give Up?

Sometimes it is better to give up than to keep trying. And sometimes, it is better to stick with it and persevere until you get there. The trick is, knowing when to choose which option. Consequences Of course you have to look at the consequences of quitting. For example,...

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Learning and Failure

Have you ever noticed that the harder you try to remember something, the harder it becomes. Trying suggests effort. That effort becomes a barrier. Rather than using effort to achieve the things you want, learn a strategy that works for you. Learning how to learn is more important than...

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Modelling

When we learned to walk and talk we did it because we saw people around us doing it. We probably made a million failed attempts before our first success. Some of those attempts were probably so bad that even our parents didn’t realise they were attempts. But did we...

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Beliefs 3

As a final thought on beliefs, I just have a short post today, but you may need to invest a little time in actually doing it. Ask yourself these 3 questions. What is it that you believe, that stops you achieving your goal? – e.g. “I can’t….” What would...

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Beliefs 2

Children have maps which sometimes remind us that our maps are learned behaviour. One child saw a dog in a police car and asked the policeman, “is that a dog in your car?” The policeman confirmed that it was so the child asked, “What did he do to get...

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Learning Loops

Hi there. Today I want you to consider a statement. There is no such thing as failure- only feedback. I know; you probably want to hit me right now. But please bear with me. When you were a baby and you took your first step, you most likely fell...

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Language

Think about the words you use to express things. A group of people were asked to explain their reasons for being in a session. Those who used lots of seeing words were given red cards. Those who used hearing words were given green cards. Those who used feeling words...

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Anchoring

We’ve all probably seen someone who had an extreme reaction to something quite minor and thought “What on Earth…..?” as the other person freaked out. People with phobias or anxiety disorders have probably experienced such extreme reactions. Sometimes we have unexpected responses to things and we can’t work out...

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Communication

Communication is not a static activity. It’s actually a loop. It’s interactive And what you say is actually completely irrelevant – what matters is what the receiver hears. For example  Say “It’s a nice day” – in a  happy voice to one person – in a threatening voice to another person...

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