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Overcoming My Barriers

Today I want to tell you a personal story about me and how I used some of the techniques I’ve talked about previously. Once upon a time I got anxious about starting anything. Almost literally anything, whether it be tidying up, writing a document, cooking a meal, doing some...

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Do It As If You Were Good At It

  NLP is about process rather than content; “how”, not “what”. NLP isn’t about what you do. It’s about how you do it. X makes you scared. NLP wants to know how, “how does X go about causing the fear”? Once you know the process, you can develop a...

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Resolving Internal Conflicts

 We’ve all been there. One part of you wants X, but another part wants Y and there’s just no way to keep both parts happy because X and Y just don’t go together. Such conflicts come and go in different situations throughout our lives. Sometimes they are harmless and...

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Tackling “Bad” Behaviours

We all probably have habits that we’d like to break and bad reactions that we’d like to reduce. NLP uses a method called “The Swish Pattern” to move you in a different direction rather than the usual response. The steps are as follows: What behaviour do you want to...

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Can You Cure Phobias?

Certainly many proponents of NLP think so. Here is a description of the NLP fast phobia cure. We all live in the present. The feelings you experience during a phobic attack are generally caused by the way you remember some past experience; an experience which was traumatic enough to...

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Reframing

It’s important to understand the difference between intention and behaviour; EVERY behaviour has a positive intent hidden somewhere in your subconscious. No matter how destructive your behaviour may appear at times, there is a constructive reason behind it. But maybe, somewhere along the way that reason has been lost...

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Learning and Failure

Have you ever noticed that the harder you try to remember something, the harder it becomes. Trying suggests effort. That effort becomes a barrier. Rather than using effort to achieve the things you want, learn a strategy that works for you. Learning how to learn is more important than...

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Modelling

When we learned to walk and talk we did it because we saw people around us doing it. We probably made a million failed attempts before our first success. Some of those attempts were probably so bad that even our parents didn’t realise they were attempts. But did we...

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Words 2

Last time, we talked about words and language and how meaningless and counter-productive they can be. Today I want to look at some more specific types and examples. Generalisation “You are not smiling – therefore you are not enjoying yourself” Is this always true? “If you don’t look at...

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